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12 Days of Confidence

Day 4

Do you find yourself thinking “Oh God, I hate having people looking at me. They think I’m an idiot. I’m blushing. Make it stop!”. Don’t worry, you’re not alone. Almost all of us have been there.

But here’s what you need to tell yourself and remember:

When you’re speaking, it’s not about you. It’s about your audience. Focus on them.


You’re there to serve them – to provide value, give them what they need, and connect with them.


It’s not about them watching you, it’s about you giving to them.


Shift the spotlight onto them, and remember – it’s all about your audience. That’s the best remedy for the out of body experience of watching ourselves.

There is also some really interesting research into the “social facilitation effect” which I shared in a post here. I’d love to hear about your experiences when an audience spurred you on or those times when it got the better of you. I hope today’s mantra will be a great help to you, it is definitely a core tool in my personal toolbox!

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