12 Days of Confidence

Day 4

Do you find yourself thinking “Oh God, I hate having people looking at me. They think I’m an idiot. I’m blushing. Make it stop!”. Don’t worry, you’re not alone. Almost all of us have been there.

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But here’s what you need to tell yourself and remember:

When you’re speaking, it’s not about you. It’s about your audience. Focus on them.

You’re there to serve them – to provide value, give them what they need, and connect with them.

It’s not about them watching you, it’s about you giving to them.

Shift the spotlight onto them, and remember – it’s all about your audience. That’s the best remedy for the out of body experience of watching ourselves.

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There is also some really interesting research into the “social facilitation effect” which I shared in a post here. I’d love to hear about your experiences when an audience spurred you on or those times when it got the better of you. I hope today’s mantra will be a great help to you, it is definitely a core tool in my personal toolbox!